It took a few months before Jake and I began to hang out again.
But then one afternoon, after we'd both (independently) moved out of D. to return to New York, I was getting my hair cut at my old favorite place--Antonio Prieto--when it dawned on me that I was just down the street from Jake's new office.
You be really happy for them, and explain that if they ever broke up (terrible suggestion, you know, but it is possible, heaven forbid) that you will refuse to take sides and they are never to put you in the middle of any of their fights or arguements.
If you feel like they're checking off a lot of the things on this list already and you don't feel the need to find someone else, then you should either commit to them or cool things down a bit so you can find a fulfilling relationship. You've never tried to set them up with your friends.
(Dear me, I'm even tearing up a little as I write this.)Anyway, the experience has me convinced that BOTH friends need to feel pretty strong chemistry before they move from being platonic pals to romantic partners.
Otherwise, I think the chance of it working out are slim.
At the same time, after considering it for a minute or two, I realized that if I give it a try, my reluctance could create a weird dynamic which could very well do serious damage to the friendship--maybe as much as a failed romance would. --because there doesn't seem to be much else to explain it.
I also wondered if my hesitation had to do with a (lingering? Yet, the lack of sexual heat was an indisputable fact.
Dating a friend might seem less glamorous than falling in love at first sight, but what's more suspenseful than decoding a friend's flirty mixed signals for signs of romantic intentions?THE FACTORS THAT SHOULD BE IN PLAY BEFORE YOU START DATING YOUR BEST FRIEND 1) A mutual (and intense) desire--ON BOTH SIDES--to give it a whirl.2) The LACK of some major precipitating event.By that, I mean: Think twice before getting involved with your best friend if either of you are motivated by feelings other than love, longing and desire. At that point, though, you just need to start dating. If you've ended serious relationships because you refused to give up your best friend in any capacity, that says a lot. They always know how to cheer you up when you're down. If you're looking for a major, giant, neon flashing sign that you belong together, this is as good as any.