Just as when people ask a victim of date rape why they didn't beat their assailant with their fists.
It's one thing to be raped, it's another to be raped and murdered. And the fact that somewhere, somebody has or does have it worse than you does not invalidate your own trauma. To say my experience of sexual assault was invalid because it didn't involve penis-in-vagina penetration invalidates the experience of anyone anally raped, raped with a foreign object, raped while they were unconscious, and so on. You are entitled to your pain, your outrage, your trauma, and the language that describes it.
"Sexual assault" was a phrase I didn't know but even then, it's unspecific.
It wasn't until I was an adult that I learned the true definition of the word "rape," and its many modifiers.
Beautiful women are sent money and lavished with expensive gifts by men who want next-to-nothing in return - it’s all about submitting to the dominant woman and relinquishing control over your finances.
Much like physical forms of BDSM, it’s this surrendering of power that is arousing.