But now that I’m nearing my mid-thirties (gasp) and am still single (gasp! It’s hard to find that person because I have a close connection with my twin.
For example, my last girlfriend, my sister did not like her, and I took that into account a lot.
I began recalling all my failed relationships and wondering, bemused, if they’d been doomed to fail from the moment I shared a womb.
It’s hard to settle down with someone if I don’t have the blessing from [my twin].”But of course, you want anyone you care about to like your partner, right? More research led me to this 2012 study on twins and marriage, which says that “twins tend to marry later than non-twins and more twins than singletons remain unmarried,” and “twins have a constant companion from the very beginning and they develop close relationships with one another and, as such, it may be a challenge for twins to find a marriage partner who can compete with the co-twin relationship.”, I thought.
Other twins didn’t get along as children and don’t have strong sibling relationships.
Some people worry that if they date an identical twin, they will develop feelings for the other twin.
But what I think people are really interested in, and what they can’t quite put into words when they ask all those questions, is: What is it like? This is hard to answer, because I don’t have anything to compare it to. When I was born, I formed an attachment to my mother, of course, and my father, yes, but the attachment to my brother was real before anything else.
It’s may be no surprise, then, that I am still single.