Explore Why you Think you Force your Feelings Like the previous suggestion, this one demands honesty on your part. Are you feeling pressure from others, or working out of a fear that you won’t find someone better?
Why is it that you feel that you should force your feelings for this person? Or maybe there’s something that this person offers—a better lifestyle or some sort of security—that you really like having in your life.
If the other person wants more than friendship, they may not be willing to settle for less.
There’s nothing at all wrong with saying something like, “It’s not fair to either one of us for me to try to make something happen that just isn’t there.” Be delicate and be kind. If you really know, and you’re certain that there’s no way that it’ll ever happen between you, then be honest and communicate that to them.
Don’t beat Yourself up About It If you’re not feeling something you think you should feel (or even want to feel), don’t be hard on yourself.
We feel the way we do, and no one should ever be criticized for the desires they do or do not experience.
But if you can, then maintain your friendship and enjoy all the things you can offer each other.
Then, once a strong friendship has developed, who knows what might happen?