Floppy relationship triangles are essentially unstable and the outcomes are not only unpredictable, but often dire.There are many factors that can affect these triangulated relationships, and how they are combined can affect the outcome in different ways.This is one of the most common dilemmas my patients have brought to me over the past four decades.Though there are multiple variations on the theme, there is one way in which they all are similar: two women are in a competitive triangle with the same man.They are at a loss when it happens, but still feel attached to their history, friends, children, financial situation, mutual families, and a deeper caring.After a time apart, they realize that they want to make the relationship work and are highly motivated to make that happen.
Secrecy If the separated man is concerned that a new relationship might inflame the other partner’s decision, he may choose to keep that new relationship quiet.
A floppy relationship triangle exists when the man in question is at the apex of that triangle and the two women are represented by the other two points.
Each woman is connected to the man but they are not usually connected to each other. The gamut can run from two women who have known one another in the past, even possibly friends, to total strangers who are now connected to each other only by being attached in some way to the same man.
In either case, a relationship they begin while being separated is just another kind of infidelity.
Men who do not find themselves ever satisfied with only one woman are clearly not likely candidates to change that behavior in the future.