Eventually, they successfully completed their divorce mediation program but were not able to return to their prior amicable relationship.This experience made we wonder how dating relationships are impacted when one or both parties are going through divorce. S., who coaches individuals in Doylestown, Newtown and our other Bucks County area offices.I’d also been a columnist for a local women’s newspaper in my area for a couple of years and got good feedback from readers.
I tell them how important it is the PREPARE for dating again by addressing their own “baggage” (how they contributed to the breakup of their marriage), with the goal of getting to a healthy, happy place in their lives—which means making sure all their “ducks are in a row” with house, kids, job, etc.
I often recommend they read and do the exercises in a book called by Debbie Ford.
For those who want to date online, I suggest listing their status on their profile as “separated” and only contacting other separated people, so that both people are in the transition phase, looking for companionship rather than long-term commitment.
Online dating can be frustrating and sometimes discouraging, but, as a natural cheerleader and upbeat person, I knew I had the positive attitude that could inspire others to stay motivated to continue using this very helpful tool–especially those over 50 who have fewer other options in the dating world than younger people do.
I especially love coaching divorced or widowed men who want to understand women in the dating world better. I learned so much in the 14 months I was dating online–including what NOT to do–that I wanted to share this knowledge with others to save them the grief and aggravation I experienced.