These men lied about their ages, their locations, and their intentions.Then, I have friends who met their husbands online. Still, men prey on seemingly desperate women in order to get what they want. Go with a group if you are more comfortable with that.The problem is, you cannot tell the difference at first.If we caution our teenagers, children, and young women to stay away from strangers they meet on line, does it then make sense to turn around and encourage them to do just that—meet strangers online? I have read the news stories of girls going missing after meeting up with men they met online.“The path of life leads upward for the prudent, that he may turn away from Sheol beneath” (Proverbs ).So what is the appropriate path for female-male friendships?
If we don’t ask ourselves this question, someone will eventually pay the serious consequences. with perverted heart devises evil, continually sowing discord; therefore calamity will come upon him suddenly; in a moment he will be broken beyond healing” (Proverbs , 14–15). The spark of sexual immorality may be the difference of an inch, a glance.
A few diagnostic questions are: Once the risks of a male-female friendship have been considered and weighed, we can ask the question, “Can these risks be mitigated?
” Can humility and honesty, community and accountability, protect us from the looming consequences, and allow us to enjoy the good that can come from these friendships?
Every relationship — all intimacy — flourishes with the right kind of boundaries.
And the sort of relationship dictates what boundaries it needs to flourish.