Men often assume I “like it rough” without me telling them any of my preferences. Also, when I first joined Grindr as a freshman, quite a few profiles proudly proclaimed “no Blacks.” While the words are rarely posted on profiles these days, their owners are likely no less racist.Some men refuse to talk to Black men, masquerading their discrimination as “preference.” The reason this “preference” is actually racism is because, for a person to say that they aren’t romantically or sexually attracted to Black people, they are saying that among the billions of Black people on this Earth, there isn’t a single quality that one of them possesses that could make up for their Blackness; no matter what they do, who they are, or what they believe in, they are still Black and thus unworthy of attraction.But who cares about that when it's 1am on a Friday and you just got dumped, or fired by your boss who you were also dating?That's when it's time to turn to these 12 bad decision bars around Pittsburgh that promise to be uncomfortable, unforgettable, and leave you soaked in sweat (at least you hope it's sweat).This Irish joint is sparsely occupied in the evenings, but packed with steelworkers early in the day who make it feel as though you’ve taken a step backwards in time.
The comparison annoyed me – why did my hair have to feel like something else? I had never touched White hair and said, “Wow, it feels like a dog,” or “Has anyone ever told you that your hair feels like wet string?For a while, it worked — I didn’t feel particularly weird about being called someone’s first Black date until I went to get coffee with one particularly bold Tinder match. He had a long face, full lips, and long, blonde hair that was cropped short on one side.He had come into Starbucks wearing a blue, woolen blazer over an off-white sweater.The amount of times that someone has told me that they’ve never hooked up with or dated a Black man is unbelievable.These men, almost always White, look at me hungrily, their jaws slack, their eyes half-closed.