You’ve heard all about them: Ashley intimidates you. Here's how: Once I was dating someone we’ll call Trevor, who didn’t want to meet my friends. Of course, it turned out he had another girlfriend in another New York City borough.
You’ve already met Molly through other friends and are worried you made a pass three years ago at a holiday party. Before I figured this out, my friends warned me: “We haven’t met Trevor—is this an actual relationship? ” Then one day, when I was taking Trevor to buy a coat (which is a major girlfriend request from someone playing me, by the way, Trevor), we ran into one of my friends on the street.
She said out loud in complete disdain, “Oh, my God, you real. It’s a major red flag if someone doesn’t want to meet your friends.
Don’t be like Trevor, who has since been banished from the city.
If you’re exclusive and/or have been going out for more than a few months, you have to show up when your girlfriend invites you to meet her friends.
Accept every party, wedding or social networking invitation you are given and attend.
Perhaps a change of venue or attitude will make all the difference, but without trying you'll never know.
In fact, you probably wouldn't be reading this article at all if you weren't in need of new ideas to jumpstart your current efforts, as whatever it is you are doing now isn't working to your satisfaction.
Avoid bringing anything to distract yourself with if you can manage it, although this may be more difficult for some than for others.
The point is this: try not to involve yourself into something so completely that you send off ' I'm busy' vibes.