CNN: In your book, it sounds like communication is a key factor for interpreting whether a relationship is headed for marriage. Seligson: I was surprised how little communication there was between couples. I heard this from many men that they want to be able to provide.You need to ask yourself: What does it mean when you move in together? If you want to move in with your boyfriend, discuss what it means be on the same page about it. Men want to feel they are in a financially stable position before they get married.
The average wedding costs 20 grand, and we live in a culture where it seems like you have to buy into all of that hoopla. Seligson: I saw it going on with my friends, but most importantly, I saw it going on with myself.Now people get married because they want to have kids.Now there is a sense that marriage is a sense of adulthood.For example, the day-to-day staple activities are done together.You buy furniture together but you say, "What happens when if we broke up? " There is no definite sense this will culminate in marriage.