• Do not respond to an ad if you are not genuinely interested. • If you have responded to an ad and the reply is a rejection, don't take it to heart. It just means you are one step closer to finding your love match.• If the response is from a candidate clearly outside your stated parameters, ignore it. However, reply to all responses, even if the answer is no.If you are planning to take the plunge into the world of online dating, you should learn the code of online dating etiquette first; it will save you from wasting time, being disappointed and hurting the feelings of other people. You will be dealing with real people with real feelings.Here are some of the rules you should follow to protect yourself and others.This is cruel and deceitful and could lead to problems If this is a first date enquire delicately to elicit information about likes and dislikes; values and expectations; interests, dreams and aspirations At each subsequent date widen the field of your enquiry in a casual conversational manner while also imparting more information about yourself Avoid bragging and talking too much about anything, especially yourself Turn the conversation around to get your date’s views and contribution to the subject Keep the conversation light and try to have fun together Use humour, but don't overdo it Keep it clean Don’t lie to your date Ask before you smoke Non-smokers sometimes cannot abide smokers breath or are allergic to cigarette smoke Definitely don’t smoke during the meal It is bad etiquette to enforce your own rights over the comfort of others.Don’t do it Do not have unreasonable expectations of your date Remember – dignity and respect Do what is expected of you and not what you want to do Do not force intimacy.
It is okay if your reveal your personal side by sharing a bit more about yourself, but keep it on a mild level, no embarrassing or intimate detail should slip out. You don’t need to buy a gift, instead offer her a ride.
If it happens it happens If not it’s probably too soon Avoid sharing confidences.
It puts your date in an awkward position Guys, see her to her door after the date It’s for her safety A friendly hug in greeting or to say good bye may be OK or perhaps a kiss on the cheek.
• Use punctuation and good online manners at all times. • Always tell someone where you will be, just in case. • It's okay to date more than one prospect online or offline, as long as you have not made a commitment to be exclusive with anyone.
• Once you have found your "perfect" match, discontinue your ad by removing your profile. Lisa Mirza Grotts is a recognized etiquette expert, an on-air contributor, and the author of A Traveler's Passport to Etiquette.