To be clear: I’m talking about being with a guy who struggles with erectile dysfunction or premature ejaculation.(There are plenty of other ways our bodies can malfunction in bed—and we women face our own challenges—but here, we’re focusing on the men.) Erectile dysfunction, or the inability to get or keep an erection, affects millions of men in the U. But that doesn’t mean millennial men don’t experience it: According to the University of Wisconsin Madison’s School of Medicine and Public Health, mild or moderate ED affects 10 percent of men per decade of life—meaning 20 percent of men in their 20s, 30 percent of men in the 30s, and so on, though we’ll assume with a drop-off at some point.That way they can be prepared – and won’t make you uncomfortable whatever their reaction.Which, if they’re a decent person, will be a good one. While it’s good to disclose your illness, you don’t need to tell them the ins and outs.There’s no time limit on when you should tell your date about your mental health issues – it’s totally down to what you’re comfortable with.Being comfortable is the only way you’re going to be able to discuss the topic without fretting too much about the response.Being honest isn’t just good for a potential partner. It’ll encourage you to talk about your mental illness more and will teach you to allow others to support you.It’ll show you who’s worthy of being there for you and who’s not – and it’ll also make you realise you are not in any way a burden on anyone else.
The person you’re dating needs to know that you struggle so that they can learn how to be there for you.The bottom line is the topic of mental health can feel like a very intimidating thing to talk about with someone you’re interested in.But, if they’re truly worthy of your affection, they will accept it.Make this known to your date so that they understand this.If you go to start the conversation and the words just won’t come out, don’t worry.