Looking back, I realize my naivety was shining like a lighthouse beacon.
I was 25 years old, single, very naïve and had not considered researching cultural differences that I was likely to encounter.
This is where you have to be careful as many people assume arranged and forced marriage to be the same thing. My husband’s sister was identified as a potential bride for one young man living in the same town.
After family discussions about his ability to provide as a father and husband, my husband’s sister said yes to the marriage. She never had to complete the walk of shame in the early hours of the morning.
The father would then asses the suitor’s financial position and the ability to provide for his daughter and the children that would be born so soon after the wedding.
No, not all of them praised Turkish men, but many did. ) Here is a selection of readers’ mails and tweets. The most hostile one on Twitter was from Nick A.: “Turkish columnists somehow manage the impossible – to write worse than Canadian ones.” He also asked his followers to “Prepare to laugh/cry/vomit...” because he did all three.The traditions and wedding styles largely depends on which area of Turkey the couple originates.One friend working in tourism returned to his village, to follow up a potential match arranged by his mother.The marriage was not allowed because the man continued working in tourism, and this was not considered a stable income.In rural parts of Turkey, a huge difference is whether the girl is a virgin or not, hence you will not see her in any bars, as rumors will start about her virgin status.